Building Foundations, Not Fences - Marriage, Divorce, and Homosexuality

Week 5 Resources - Marriage, Divorce, and Homosexuality

The Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender -

  • This center is guided largely by an author named Preston Sprinkle. He is a solid Christian man, but certainly not afraid to have hard conversations or learn from those different from him. His website has a ton of resources. 
  • One heads up - this ministry takes an approach very focused on maintaining the relationship with your child and erring toward love (while still holding to a traditional, solid understanding of the Bible's truth about sexuality). 
  • Parenting Resources -
  • Resource for teens -

Trust the Circle: Understanding God's Design for Sex, Gender, and Sexuality, by Ryan Smith 

  • This website and book are primarily based on the ministry of Oklahoma pastor, Ryan Smith. The resources lean a little more "traditional" than do the ones from the Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender above; but both ministries provide very helpful content.
  • Trust the Circle helpfully summarizes a Christian approach to sexuality and gender. 

Sexuality and the Gospel - Jackie Hill Perry with Preston Sprinkle on the Theology in the Raw podcast - 

  • This podcast is a great starting point for those who prefer to listen, rather than read. 
  • Jackie summarizes many points from her book below, and she has a very authentic conversation with Preston about how God has worked in her life. They discuss some difficult topics; and even if you disagree with a few of their conclusions, the conversation overall is solid. 

Is God anti-gay? (Questions Christians Ask), by Sam Allberry

7 Myths about Singleness, by Sam Allberry

Gay Girl, Good God: The Story of Who I Was, and Who God Has Always Been, by Jackie Hill Perry

Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others without Sacrificing Conviction, by Caleb Kaltenbach

The Case against the Sexual Revolution, by Louise Perry

3 Myths about Marriage that Americans Still Believe -

Collection of Articles about Divorce and Remarriage - 

  • This collection of articles and resources is helpful because several different views are presented on the subject of remarriage after divorce.
  • Before you read the articles, be sure to pay attention to which viewpoint is being presented and defended.
  • The articles at the bottom of the page mention a sermon from Michael P. Andrus. That article is broken, but the sermon PDF is available at

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God, by Timothy Keller

Week 5 Sermon Notes - Marriage, Divorce, and Homosexuality

Fences? No. Boundaries? Yes.

  • Marriage has design and boundaries.
  • Tension = where to draw the boundaries. 
  • Slogans in Culture; Widespread acceptance of homosexuality and the sexual revolution
  • Hypocrisy in the church (related to divorce, pornography, lust, adultery) is a real problem. 

Biblical Foundation for Marriage

  • Genesis 1:26-27
  • Genesis 2:18, 24-25
  • Genesis 3:6
  • Marriage in the Old Testament
  • Procreation (Genesis, onward)
  • Pleasure (Song of Solomon)
  • Picture of God’s love for Israel
  • Brokenness of adultery, divorce, multiple marriages
  • Marriage in the New Testament
  • Key people not married (Jesus!!)
  • Picture of Christ and His Church
  • Church had to address sexual sin
  • Marriage is a Key Theme in the final pages of Revelation 
  • Marriage Across the Bible
  • Commanded in Genesis
  • Expected in OT
  • Permitted (Encouraged) in NT
  • Fulfilled in New Creation – “no longer given in marriage” (Matt. 22:30)

Divorce and Remarriage in Mark 10

  • Background of Deuteronomy 24:1-4
  • Divorce is a Concession, not a Demand
  • Context of Mark 10
  • John the Baptist confronting divorce of Herod Antipas
  • Differing views of School of Shammai and School of Hillel
  • Jesus focused on God’s Design and Gospel
  • Permission for Divorce? (Matthew 19; 1 Corinthians 7)
  • Adultery
  • Abandonment
  • Abuse

*Reconciliation / Repentance = goals. 

*Requires spiritual wisdom and faith.

Affirm and Strengthen Marriage

  • How we speak about marriage matters! (starts from a young age)
  • Reach out quickly for support
  • Invest in your marriage and others
  • Remember meaning / purposes

Mourn and Heal from Divorce

  • “Mingle the call to obedience with the tears of compassion.” - Storms
  • Recover / Heal (Gospel; church)
  • Pursue remarriage cautiously, with personal study and conscience

What about Homosexuality? 

  • “Jesus never said anything about homosexuality.” 
  • He reaffirmed God’s design for marriage AND singleness.
  • He fulfilled the Law of God.
  • “Love is love.” 
  • Love isn’t only sexual or marital.
  • Same-sex love IS a good thing.
  • ‘For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments.’ - 1 John 3:5
  • “The church was wrong about slavery and civil rights as well.” 
  • Both Scripture and science portray these issues differently.
  • *The Secular Creed - Rebecca McLaughlin

Homosexuality and the Gospel

  • Homosexuality is set alongside other sins in Scripture.
  • Romans 1:18-32
  • 1 Timothy 1:8-17
  • 1 Corinthians 6:9-11
  • Value people; disagree w/ decisions
  • Ask questions; listen; learn 
  • Affirm marriage AND singleness
  • Proclaim and Display Jesus

6 Prayers

  1. For Forgiveness of Sexual Sin
  2. For Healing after Divorce
  3. For Hope in Marriage
  4. For Strength in Singleness
  5. For Wisdom in Conversations
  6. For Salvation